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Xanga link
Hey, guys! I'm mostly blogging on my Xanga now? Why? I created a new identity so that my congregation members could get to know me. Take link to my new blog.

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Cheating... link
Click on the link. A good article written for secular media, but totally appropriate for Christians who strive for integrity.

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Daddy day care: Five reasons to date single dads link
NOTE from Grover: Guys... you may not be single fathers, but this is what single women are looking for... take a hint!

By Laura J. Schaefer, MSN

For those of you ladies who complain that your latest dates had the collective maturity level of a pack of high school freshmen, it might be time to turn to an often over-looked demographic: the single dad. Nothing in life bestows character quicker than fatherhood. For a man who has mastered the fine art of getting children off to school on time, nurturing a woman comes much more naturally. Eddie Murphy aside, a daddy might just be the answer to your romantic prayers.

1. He listens

A father that is tuned into his kids has learned how to listen. He has more patience and less of a need to impress other people with his own babbling.

"Sam was terrific at giving his undivided attention to his children," relates Jessica. "I saw how patient he was with them, and my heart melted. When we talk, I never feel as if he's just waiting to tell his own story."

2. He is more approachable

A dad is easier to get to know because his kids are a great conversation starter. You can instantly start communicating about something genuine, without worrying too much about spilling anything on your big date. He's seen it all before, and he probably has part of his kid's lunch on his tie anyway. "I liked Tom right away because he had such a great sense of humor," says Nancy.

"So many men I had dated previously spent too much time and energy being 'cool.' It just made me nervous. When I met Tom, he was sitting in a sandbox at the park with his four-year-old. Not intimidating — adorable."

3. He is capable

Men who can't handle the laundry, the cooking or the shopping need not apply for fatherhood. A single dad with total or partial custody of his children is capable of incredible feats of organization and planning. (Just like most women we know.) He's taking care of his own needs and the needs of his children, which means that the woman he dates won't have to take care of him.

"My ex-boyfriend couldn't even manage to buy postage stamps. He had to steal mine. So when Jeremy came into my life already knowing how to multi-task, he didn't steal anything but my heart," laughs Wendy. "He is terrific at seeing to the needs of his son and daughter ... and he makes a mean lasagna."

4. He doesn't have a lot of time for channel surfing

Single dads will still make time for their favorite team once in a while, but you'd be hard-pressed to find one that devotes significant parts of his day to video games. With children around, his priorities have probably been straightened out.

"I love spending the day with Jasper and his daughter at the zoo or the park," Maria says. "He wants to be a dynamic father, and this makes him and interesting and active person by default. It's great!"

5. He'll give you space

Like it or not, dads need quality time with their children — alone. Instead of looking at this time as negative, however, you should see it as welcome space. It's a built-in guarantee that you'll have the opportunity to pursue your own interests and family relationships.

"Gary had his children every weekend, and I try to make sure they get some time on Sunday all to themselves," says Caroline. "I have brunch with my girlfriends or parents or I go to an art museum. This time has become very important to me."
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Real Men Test link
Note: All "real men" answer "C" to all of these questions. In understanding this and carefully reviewing the "C" answer, women will come far in understanding men and enriching their own lives.

1. Alien beings from a highly advanced society visit the Earth, and you are the first human they encounter. As a token of intergalactic friendship, they present you with a small but incredibly sophisticated device that is capable of curing all disease, providing an infinite supply of clean energy, wiping out hunger and poverty, and permanently eliminating oppression and violence all over the entire Earth. You decide to:

A. Present it to the President of the United States.
B. Present it to the Secretary General of the United Nations.
C. Take it apart.

2. As you grow older, what lost quality of your youthful life do you miss the most?
A. Innocence.
B. Idealism.
C. Cherry bombs.

3. When is it okay to kiss another male?
A. When you wish to display simple and pure affection without regard for narrow-minded social conventions.
B. When he is the Pope. (Not on the lips.)
C. When he is your brother and you are Al Pacino and this is the only really sportsman-like way to let him know that, for business reasons, you have to have him killed.

4. In your opinion, the ideal pet is:
A. A cat.
B. A dog
C. A dog that eats cats.

5. You have been seeing a woman for several years. She's attractive and intelligent, and you always enjoy being with her. One leisurely Sunday afternoon the two of you are taking it easy. You're watching a football game; she's reading the newspaper when she suddenly, out of the clear blue sky, tells you that she thinks she really loves you, but, she can no longer bear the uncertainty of not knowing where your relationship is going. She says she's not asking whether you want to get married; only whether you believe that you have some kind of future together. What do you say?

A. That you sincerely believe the two of you do have a future, but you don't want to rush it.
B. That although you also have strong feelings for her, you can not honestly say that you'll be ready anytime soon to make a lasting commitment, and you don't want to hurt her by holding out false hope.

C. That you cannot believe the Broncos called a draw play on third and seventeen.

6. Okay, so you have decided that you truly love a woman and you want to spend the rest of your life with her, sharing the joys and the sorrows the world has to offer, come what may. How do you tell her?

A. You take her to a nice restaurant and tell her after dinner.
B. You take her for a walk on a moonlit beach, and you say her name, and when she turns to you, with the sea breeze blowing through her hair and the stars in her eyes, you tell her.

C. Tell her what?

7. One weekday morning your wife wakes up feeling ill and asks you to get your three children ready for school. Your first question to her is:

A. "Do they need to eat or anything?"
B. "They're enrolled in school already?"
C. "There are three of them, right?"

8. When is it okay to throw away a set of veteran underwear?
A. When it has turned the color of a dead whale and developed new holes so large that you're not sure which ones were originally intended for your legs.

B. When it is down to eight loosely connected underwear molecules and has to be handled with tweezers.
C. It is never okay to throw away veteran underwear. A real guy checks the garbage regularly in case somebody (and we are not naming names, but this would be the wife) is quietly trying to discard his underwear (which she is frankly jealous of because the guy seems to have a more intimate relationship with it than with her).

9. What, in your opinion, is the most reasonable explanation for the fact that Moses led the Israelites all over the place for forty years before they finally got to the Promised Land?

A. He was being tested.
B. He wanted them to really appreciate the Promised Land when they finally got there.
C. He refused to ask for directions.

10. What is the human race's single greatest achievement?
A. Democracy.
B. Religion.
C. Remote control.
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King and Four Wives link
Once upon a time there was a King who had four wives.

He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.

He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with him.

Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.

The King's 1st wife, whom he did not love, was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short.

He thought of his life and wondered, 'I now have four wives with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.'

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, 'I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?' 'No way!', replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, 'I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?' 'No!', replied the 3rd wife. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to remarry!'

He then asked the 2nd wife, 'I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!"," I can see you to your grave."

Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go." The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was so skinny as she suffered from malnutrition and neglect. Greatly grieved, the King said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"

In truth, we all have 4 wives in our lives:

Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it will leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others.

Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world. However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go. Cultivate, strengthen nand cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow us to the throne of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.

When the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray. GOD Bless you...
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Smith Cho link

She's pretty cute...
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RotK EE link
The Extended Edition of the third movie has been completed and is four hours and ten minutes! What the...? No word on when it will be released, though.
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